It's been a whirlwind of a year, and after spending the majority of our time planning for and executing our wedding, it's been a welcome shift in pace as we can finally move at a normal speed with other tasks.
The dominant question on people's minds though, appears to be whether or not the time, effort and energy spent on these sorts of events is worth it in the end. It's so easy to make an argument against weddings, and sure enough, just the same I was wholeheartedly against marriage for most of my adult life. After all, why the hell would anyone want to lose their freedom? Why would you want the headache of going through the motions, when at best all it really serves as is a symbol (or gesture, if you will) of your commitment and nothing more. What a waste of money it all is.
To this I say--while money is one of those things that people make their god, it comes and goes and somehow comes right back. Strange how that works sometimes. Maybe there is something in this life in providence above and beyond what we are capable of comprehending. Or maybe it really is all just horse gook and we are alone in the universe, surviving and playing the game for our insatiable need to feel significant. I won't get into it.
But what I will say is that when your wife suggests going to the Redwoods in California to detox and get some real peace and quiet (which of course, still means jam-packing our days with everything we want to see), you just know deep down that this is a person you met for a reason, and regardless of the noise in society that comes from all angles, you 100% made the right decision.
It is her (and later on I'm sure, the children) that makes me a better man. For as long as I make that my ultimate truth, I will gladly give my life to ensure I never take it for granted.
